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Father’s Club at Blue Valley West is Firing on All Cylinders!

By Charles Dahm, Blue Valley Schools Regional Chair for Father’s Club

When Blue Valley West (BVW) Father’s Club first formed in 2018, you can be sure nobody knew just how big and impactful it would become. This group of dads shows up and shows out for BVW students and teachers. Their commitment and sheer volume of support is inspirational.

As co-founders Clay Norkey and Grady Hawley were finding their way in the early days, BVW Principal, Dr. Brett Potts, came to them with an opportunity… Football concessions.

Football Concessions

When asked how he responded to that opportunity, Clay said, “I replied, ‘ABSOLUTELY!’ Even though we had no idea how much work was actually involved. We were just excited to have Father’s Club step up to help the school, especially being at the heart of one of the biggest extracurricular activities on campus. The prospect of being in place with the opening of the second District Activity Complex on BVW’s campus added to the excitement.”

They had no idea how that opportunity would transform their small club into an integral part of the BVW culture. They introduced the 4th Quarter Hot Dog Toss — tossing and launching Glizzies and candy to the student section — which has now become a tradition at BV West games, complete with a PA system announcement and coordination with the cheerleaders and dance team! They learned from both successes and mistakes, transforming hard work and commitment into a valuable fundraising opportunity that fuels their entrepreneurial spirit.

BVW Clubs and Organizations Team Up

The tradition continues at BVW where clubs and organizations can team up to help share in the work (and the profits) under the Friday night lights. Clay proudly says, “100% of profits are invested directly into the students, staff, and school, with none being used for dads-only activities. The chapter works hard for tips and other fundraising to fund those events.”

This chapter boasts an impressive number of dads who are ready rock in the 2nd semester of an already amazing year. “We have 40 or more dads we can count on to show up throughout the year,” says current chairman Kevin Saylan. He went on, “A successful school year starts long before the first day of school. It starts in the summer months when we meet up with Principal Dr Bonnema to discuss the year and identify opportunities for engagement.” Then he and vice-chair Dan Vial run a kick-off meeting in the BVW Commons to regroup, meet new members, identify project leaders and layout plans for the school year. Their leadership team contains 10 (soon to be more) dads who are ready to develop and implement their plans.

Here’s a look at just some of the great accomplishments this school year:

Football concessions
Senior sunrise with breakfast
Jaguar Grill
Homecoming dance support
“Just show up” at sports
“Semi-quasi, mandatory” meet and greets for dads
New Jaguar Night for incoming students
Teacher appreciation

Upcoming events:

Mental Health and Suicide Awareness Training
Sweetheart Dance Support
Employment and career planning counseling
Halftime basketball shootout vs. Blue Valley High dads
And of course, FISTBUMPS FOR FOOD!

The simple act of a high five, a “have a great day,” and handing over some food creates memories and a spirit of welcome for dads and students. After such an event, one BVW dad said, “I’m not sure who these events are for, because that really energized ME for the day.” Likewise, students are often moved by these intentional acts of kindness. One student said, “I woke up late and was having a bad morning and you guys turned it upside down and made my day!”

Support for Mental Health

Nowhere is their commitment to students, teachers, and one another more apparent than through their support for mental health.

Over two dozen dads have completed mental health and suicide awareness training. Signage and t-shirts at all Father’s Club events remind students, “Right Here, Right Now, You Matter.” The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline which anyone can call, text, or chat is also prominently displayed at every event.

This May, for the third straight year, the chapter will provide at least 5 mental health scholarships for graduating seniors. The scholarship program provides financial support and recognition to students who have: A) endured and persevered through their own mental-health struggles and are willing to share those experiences to help others, and/or B) have made significant contributions toward improving mental health for others, reduced stigmas associated with mental-health issues or raised awareness of mental-health issues in their community.

Dan Viall, mental health lead, says, “Our kids are dealing with very different things than when we were growing up, and reading dozens of scholarship essays every year is both revealing, sobering, and at times heartbreaking. And yet, I’m also inspired and encouraged by the resilience and advocacy so many have demonstrated, especially to encourage their own peers. These stories of perseverance and courage inspire others and help fellow students through hard times. We’re grateful we are able to play a small part as dads, encouraging them along their journey.”

Congratulations to the dads at BV West who “just showed up” and are finding community together, as they connect with each other, their kids, and their school. If it’s been a while since you’ve come out to an event at your school, make the next one a priority!

To get involved with a Father’s Club chapter at your school, visit the Chapters page on our website.
If there isn’t a chapter currently at your school and you would like to know more about starting a Father’s Club chapter, visit the Contact page and fill out the form with your details and we will be in touch!

February 20, 2025/by Father's Club

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Valentine’s Day – Modeling love, respect, and partnership with your spouse and children.

By Mike Davisson, Executive Director/Olathe Regional Director for Father’s Club

Valentine’s Day is more than just a celebration of romantic love; it’s an opportunity for a husband to show his wife how much she means to him and to set an example for his children about how a man should treat a woman in a marriage. The way a man chooses to honor his wife on this special day not only strengthens his relationship with her but also lays the groundwork for teaching his children about love, respect, and partnership.

Here’s how a husband can show up for his wife and why this is such a critical teaching moment.

1. Plan Thoughtfully

The first step in creating a meaningful Valentine’s Day experience is thoughtful planning.

The effort a man puts into planning shows his wife that he values her and their relationship. This doesn’t necessarily mean an extravagant gesture—even simple plans can have a profound impact if they are made with intention.

For example, a husband might:

Arrange for a babysitter so the two can enjoy a quiet dinner together.
Prepare a home-cooked meal with her favorite dishes.
Write her a heartfelt letter or card expressing gratitude and love.

When children observe this level of intentionality, they learn that thoughtfulness and effort are key elements of a loving relationship. They see that love isn’t just about words but about actions that reflect care and consideration.

2. Express Genuine Appreciation

Valentine’s Day is an excellent opportunity to express gratitude.

A husband should take the time to tell his wife how much he appreciates her—not just for what she does but for who she is. Whether through words, gifts, or acts of service, showing appreciation reinforces the bond between partners.

Imagine a father sitting his children down and saying, “I’m taking your mom out tonight because she’s so special to me. She works hard for our family, and I want to show her how much she means to us.” This kind of modeling teaches a daughter that she should expect appreciation and respect in her future relationships and models to a son how he should treat his future wife.

3. Prioritize Her Needs and Preferences

A husband should make the day about his wife’s preferences and desires.

What would make her feel loved and cherished? Maybe she loves flowers and chocolates, or perhaps she prefers experiences over material gifts. Listening to her needs and prioritizing her happiness shows selflessness and respect.

When children see their father going out of his way to prioritize their mother’s happiness, they learn the importance of empathy and attentiveness in a relationship. They grow up understanding that a good partner takes the time to understand and honor the needs of the other person.

4. Celebrate the Everyday Moments

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only day a husband shows love and appreciation, but it can be a day to celebrate the small, everyday moments that make their relationship special. A man can reflect on and highlight these moments, reminding his wife of the joy and connection they share.

For instance, he could create a photo album of their favorite memories or write a list of “10 Things I Love About You.” These gestures emphasize the importance of cherishing the mundane as much as the extraordinary.

By demonstrating this attitude, a father sets an example for his children to appreciate the little things in life and to seek a partner who does the same.

5. Model Healthy Communication

Valentine’s Day can also be an opportunity to model healthy communication.

A husband might use the occasion to have an open and loving conversation about their relationship, discussing hopes, dreams, and ways to continue growing together.

When children witness their parents communicating openly and lovingly, they learn how to express their feelings and resolve conflicts in their own relationships. This is a vital skill that will serve them well in her future.

6. Show Respect and Teamwork

One of the most profound ways a man can honor his wife is by treating her as an equal partner.

This might mean sharing responsibilities at home or consulting her about plans for the day. Acts of respect and teamwork are essential in any marriage and demonstrating them on Valentine’s Day reinforces their importance.

Kids who see their parents working together as a team will internalize the value of partnership. They’ll understand that a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and shared effort.

7. Demonstrate Affection

Affection—whether through words, physical touch, or small acts of kindness—is an important part of any marriage.

On Valentine’s Day, a husband can make an extra effort to be affectionate, whether it’s by holding his wife’s hand, giving her a hug, or simply telling her, “I love you.”

When children observe this loving behavior, they learn that affection is a natural and healthy part of a marriage. They will grow up expecting and valuing warmth and kindness from their future partner.

8. Involve the Family

While Valentine’s Day is traditionally about couples, involving the whole family can make it even more special.

A husband could:

Have his children help prepare a surprise for their mom.
Share stories about how he and his wife met and fell in love.
Include a family activity, like making Valentine’s crafts together.

By including the family, a man not only makes his wife feel loved but also teaches his children—especially his daughter—about the importance of celebrating love and togetherness.

9. Be Consistent Year-Round

While Valentine’s Day is a wonderful occasion to make grand gestures, the most impactful way to show up for a wife is through consistent love and respect all year. A single day of attention won’t mean much if it isn’t backed by daily acts of kindness and support.

Consistency teaches a daughter that love is not just about fleeting moments but about a steady, unwavering commitment. She’ll see that a healthy marriage is built on a foundation of reliability and trust.

The Long-Term Impact on a Daughter

When a man treats his wife with love and respect, especially on days like Valentine’s Day, he’s not just strengthening his marriage—he’s also shaping his children’s understanding of relationships. They learn to recognize the qualities of a good partner: kindness, thoughtfulness, respect, and empathy. They grow up with a clear picture of how partners deserve to be treated and what a healthy, loving relationship looks like.

Young women are often exposed to unhealthy relationship dynamics in media and society. A father’s example is a powerful counterbalance. By showing up for his wife, a man helps his daughter set high standards for her own relationships, ensuring she seeks out a partner who will treat her with the same love and respect.

Again, Valentine’s Day is more than just a celebration of romantic love; it’s an opportunity to model what a healthy, loving relationship looks like. When a husband shows up for his wife with thoughtfulness, appreciation, and respect, he strengthens their bond and sets a powerful example for his children.

Father’s Club is not about being perfect but about showing up with intentionality. So be sure to show up for your wife for Valentine’s Day and model a loving relationship for your children!

February 13, 2025/by Father's Club

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Never let a chance to connect with a parent slip away.

By Jim Bradford, Chapter Co-Chair at Mission Trail Middle School for Father’s Club

Never let a chance to connect with a parent slip away. A small window of time to make a connection can prove to be the catalyst you need to help a student (their child), even though you’ve never even met them. Huh? Well, let me explain.

A couple of weeks ago, another father and I had an opportunity to talk to some parents at a Mission Trail Middle School 6^th Grade Enrollment Night. They were coming to learn about the enrollment process at the middle school level. Heads were spinning, minds were racing and many were coming to grips with the fact that their babies were going to be in – GULP – middle school next year. But we also knew this would be an important opportunity to start getting Father’s Club on their radars.

We didn’t have much time to engage with the parents that were coming to the meeting, so it was imperative we caught them quickly with something that would grab their attention. We gave them a Father’s Club handout with a brief description of what we’re about and included a QR code for more information.

We also shared the analogy that Father’s Club is a bit like Watch D.O.G.S. at the middle school level. While both Father’s Club and Watch D.O.G.S. are two completely separate organizations with different missions, it was a perfect way to start a conversation. Dads want to be a part of their children’s lives. Watch D.O.G.S. was a perfect way to engage within the school building and now, letting them know where’s a similar option at the middle school level DID get their attention.

We heard time and time again, “Oh, wow, yeah, I’ll check it out!”

Dads often want to stay involved with their kids and Father’s Club is a great option. It’s just a matter of taking advantage of an opportunity to let them know about it.

While they are different, both organizations are vitally important. Watch D.O.G.S. offers dads a chance to interact with their child’s class, help out at lunch and engage with students all over the building for a day.

Father’s Club is a variation on that theme, except it’s not about a one-and-done type of situation. An engaged Father’s Club allows dads to be intentionally part of the educational experience, whether it’s for 10 minutes or three hours.

For Father’s Club to survive, thrive and do a deep dive, we need to make sure we don’t miss these chances to connect. If we don’t connect with future Father’s Club dads, we’ll never have a chance to connect with a student that might need us most. It may not be the one we think needs help. It may not be the one we see every time we’re out there doing Fist Bumps for Food. But we know they’re out there and we’re here to connect with them. Somehow.

February 6, 2025/by Father's Club

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Raymore-Peculiar East Middle School: Presence Vs. Presents

By Loren Jones, Chapter Chair at Raymore-Peculiar East Middle School for Father’s Club

Sometimes as a father, it can be challenging to see our value outside of being financial providers. In a digital world that’s constantly vying for our attention, giving ourselves the opportunity to be present in the moment is crucial to how our kids and communities see us. In fact, studies show a direct impact on kids’ self esteem, risk taking, and cognitive thinking.

Throughout almost every studied culture, the three main factors of fatherhood include: Protection, Providing, and Discipline. It’s time to add a 4th: Presence.

I have to admit… it seems unfair that moms seem to be expected to show up for everything. But when dads show up, it’s like the stars aligned for the day. But stop and think about that for a minute. When dad showed up, everything was “perfect”. As fathers, why shouldn’t we want things to be“perfect” more? This just goes to show you that kids prefer our presence not our presents.

Unfortunately, most men don’t make money off of our good looks.

We have to go out into the workforce and provide for our families. And we have to trust that our families will understand that. But the nurturing side of us is equally as important. Being active and attentive has so many positive effects. In addition, being attentive also minimizes the negative things our kids may experience during their adolescent years. This includes substance abuse, teen pregnancy, and trouble with the law amongst other negative behaviors. Our attentiveness adds value to their education and other positive extracurricular activities our kids participate in.

So the next time you think, “Oh, I’ll stay at work another hour and make a little more money”, pause and make sure that’s the right sacrifice. Get involved in your kids’ lives and ask questions about how they’re doing. Get involved with Father’s Club at your school (or start a chapter if there isn’t one!) Seeing just one kid’s face light up because you showed up and gave them a moment of your time is worth every second.

To get involved with a Father’s Club chapter at your school, visit the Chapters page on our website. If there isn’t a chapter currently at your school and you would like to know more about starting a Father’s Club chapter, visit the Contact page and fill out the form with your details and we will be in touch!

January 30, 2025/by Father's Club

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Five Blue Valley Schools, One Family – That’s a wrap on fall sports!

By Charles Dahm, Blue Valley Schools Regional Chair for Father’s Club

All five Blue Valley (BV) School district Father’s Club chapters had a great fall sport season. These chapters supported students and teachers by showing up and making things happen. Fathers were everywhere, actively participating, and had a great time doing it.

Blue Valley Southwest

Blue Valley Southwest Chapter Chairs Dan Paschke and Andrew Kneisler led what must be a PERFECT activity for dads – FIRE, FIRE, FIRE! The BVSW pep rally and bonfire on homecoming week have become a fun tradition with food, games and memorable performances by marching band, dance, and cheer. And what pep rally is complete without a big ol’ fire?! These dads in cooperation with administrators and the Overland Park Fire Department Fire Station 48 (conveniently located on the BVSW Campus) made memories for these students for years to come. Combined with parade support, grilling at home football games, tailgates and plenty of hotdogs flying into the student section, these guys brought it this fall.

Blue Valley Northwest

Blue Valley Northwest is rebuilding their role and rebooting their passion for helping the school, the students, and each other. Along with Principal Vomhof, the new chapter chair Johnny Johnson re-launched the chapter and then launched some food — into the student section – hotdogs, fruit snacks, and best (or worst, I suppose) of all – Little Debbie Oatmeal Cream Pies. The marching band got in on the fun early in the 3^rd quarter. BVNW is set up for success this year with great support from Johnny, Mrs. Vomhof and their amazing Booster Club.

Blue Valley West

Blue Valley West is among the most active chapters in all of Father’s Club. Their leadership with fall football concessions is the fuel that drives their philanthropic spirit. Their fundraising contributes so much to BVW – including scholarships for seniors. This year these guys, led by Kevin Saylan and Dan Viall, supported 9 football games including middle school, freshman, and JV games. Their concessions model also involves local clubs, teams, and organizations to help share in the fun and earn some cash too. Congratulations gentleman on a fall sports season to remember.

Blue Valley North

The Blue Valley North Father’s Club has found a few exciting and novel ways to earn some cash at fall sports – pickles and cotton candy! When you walk into a football game at BVN you’re greeted by Todd Welholter and Chris Whigman … and their inflatable pickles …along with the irresistible smell of freshly made cotton candy. Who knew that giant pickles on a stick and even pickle juice would be such a big hit? Hot days early in the year helped with sales. Even more unexpected is the demand for INFLATABLE pickles. The students begged them to sell those inflatable pickles – so of course they obliged, and the students walked off with one of their own. A few students even got in on the marketing and walked the stands holding inflatable pickles and pickle signs. Nicely done gentlemen.

Blue Valley High School

Blue Valley High School is THE OG when it comes to Father’s Club Chapters. From a few guys on a deck a few years ago to 35 chapters today! Their chapter remains a vibrant and integral part of the fabric at BVH and they showed up in force at fall sports this year. They turned out bigtime to support Homecoming as the bonfire pit bosses, along with supporting the parade. They also lent their grilling expertise to tailgates for football, soccer, volleyball, teacher appreciation, and even orchestra and yearbook! Cory Reinert and Shaun Reid along with their social media guru, Phil Hazel, led the way and the students appreciated it! Follow these guys on Twitter (@BVHSFathers) to be inspired by their focus, values, and sheer output.

To get involved with a Father’s Club chapter at your school, visit the Chapters page on our website.

January 23, 2025/by Father's Club

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Lee’s Summit West Father’s Club Chapter Wins Volunteer of the Year Award

Recognition ceremony at the Lee’s Summit School Board Meeting- Father’s Club members left to right: Roger Weller, Craig Nash, Tim Ginnings, Tyler Thompson, Cartus Rogers, Bill Reinwald

By Tim Ginnings, Chapter Co-Chair at Lee’s Summit West for Father’s Club

In the fall of 2024, the Lee’s Summit West (LSW) High School Father’s Club chapter was recognized by Dr. Kayla Maid, LSW principal, as the school’s 2024-2025 Volunteer of the Year. Dr. Maid highlighted her appreciation for Father’s Club “going above and beyond to be intentional about being in our schools.” She also cited our willingness to help anywhere needed and our “can-do” attitude.

Senior Sunrise Breakfast – flipping pancakes and rocking to tunes

Some highlights from the past few months are below:

The Lee’s Summit West Father’s Club has partnered with the Student Senate to host both a Senior Sunrise and a Senior Sunset event the last two years. Father’s Club provides food, entertainment, and encouragement.
In each of the past three years, the LSW Father’s Club has partnered with Neighborhood Cafe, a local business, to hand out individually wrapped cinnamon rolls for the first Fist Bumps for Food of the year.
The LSW Father’s Club donates time, labor, and resources toward events and projects on the LSW campus. One such project this year was repairing the tables and benches in the outdoor common area.

Cinnamon Roll Fist Bump Day

Repairing Benches in the school’s outdoor common area

January 9, 2025/by Father's Club

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MCA of Kansas City Selects Father’s Club to Benefit from Charity Golf Event

By Mike Davisson, Executive Director/Olathe Regional Director for Father’s Club

The Mechanical Contractors Association of Kansas City (MCAKC) represents the most competent, professional, safety-conscious, and cutting-edge mechanical contractors in the nation. Their member firms combine the best project management talent in the industry with the highly skilled and trained workforce of the United Association Plumbers & Gasfitters Local 8 & Pipe Fitters Local 533.

Each year, MCAKC selects a Kansas City Area nonprofit to be the sole beneficiary of funds raised from its annual charity golf outing.

Past organizations include:

Giving the Basics, Fight Dirty Foundation, Care Beyond the Boulevard, BoysGrow, Kansas City Free Eye Clinic, Kansas City Rescue Mission, Variety Kansas City, Farmer’s House of Weston, Community Assistance Council, Operation Breakthrough, Down Syndrome of Greater Kansas City, Lake Mary Center, Children’s Center for the Visually Blind, ALS Association of Kansas City, Children’s Mercy Hospital, and Susan G. Komen Foundation of Kansas City.

Since 2007, they’ve raised about $450,000 for area nonprofits.

The Background

After their annual tournament in 2023, I was made aware of MCAKC and their philanthropic efforts by Chris McCall, Olathe East HS Father’s Club dad. Chris was an Associate Member who had played in the tournament on multiple occasions in the past and felt there would be a great partnership opportunity for Father’s Club.

I reached out via email to the Executive Director, Stacy Zerr and Deputy Executive Director, Jacki Conn, to ask for the opportunity to share more about Father’s Club and inquire as to what it would take to be considered as a future beneficiary of the annual golf tournament fundraiser. Conversations began in May of 2024 with questions about Father’s Club and our needs for future funds. With a MCAKC workforce consisting of about 90% men, Father’s Club was a logical option for consideration.

Father’s Club focuses on DAD involvement and Mental Wellness training. These were key contributors to being selected as this year’s beneficiary. I shared a little about Father’s Club and our journey at the MCAKC Annual Board Meeting in August and then was able to be a part of the golf event on October 14^th at Canyon Farms Golf Club in Lenexa, KS.

The Golf Tournament

I knew it was going to be a special day when I heard the tournament sold out in the first 4 days of open registration. I had no idea that it would be run so efficiently, effectively and flawlessly as it was from the moment you drove into the parking lot until after dinner; awards and raffle items were handed out.

Randy Bratton, Mission Cup Coordinator, commented that we now know what Best in Class looks like and what we can aspire to have our golf tournaments look like in the future. Everything was first class from check-in to raffle prizes to the golf tournament and hole contests. It was an absolute joy to be at the Par 3 Hole-in-One Contest and to have Father’s Club leadership interacting with so many quality business owners and workers, vendors and MCAKC members and associates.

The Big Check

On November 13, 2024, MCAKC presented Father’s Club with a check for $61,145.00. This was the largest amount raised at any single golf tournament event to date and helped MCAKC exceed the $500,000 threshold in charitable giving to local nonprofits in just 18 years. Think about that for a moment – Half of a Million dollars raised and donated to local nonprofits in less than 18 years!

Father’s Club was a fantastic charity partner to work with this year and we look forward to our continued work together, especially with mental health. – MCAKC

Congratulations to MCAKC and your wonderful organization for all that you are doing to support local nonprofits. Thank you to Stacy Zerr, Jacki Conn, Jamie Mikelson, Kathleen Livingston and everyone else that made this tournament so successful. Thank you to the Board of Directors and all those involved in choosing Father’s Club to be this year’s charitable recipient.

We are beyond humbled by your generosity and partnership and look forward to furthering our relationship in the future as it relates to our Mental Health & Wellness efforts and creating simple, intentional ways for MCAKC members and associates to be involved in the lives of their KIDS, other DADS and the COMMUNITY with love, humility and resolve.

December 19, 2024/by Father's Club

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Father’s Club Joins with Corporate Partner, Fidelity Bank, to Host Signature Event

By Dan Holdhusen, Grandfather of three graduates and one currently enrolled in Blue Valley High School

A gaggle of Father’s Club dads gathered before the sun rose on a recent Friday morning in the far reaches of Blue Valley High School’s campus. They were preparing to man every entrance to the school to distribute chicken breakfast sandwiches and “high fives” to students who would be arriving for the beginning of another school day on a crisp, fall day. These sorts of eagerly awaited events are pretty common on many campuses across the Kansas City metro that have active Father’s Club chapters, but this event was just a bit more unique.

A New Partnership is Formed

A few months ago, Chris Caton, one of the Father’s Club dads at Blue Valley High School had a novel idea. Chris is a Residential Loan Officer at Fidelity Bank in Overland Park and also happens to be a father with children in the Blue Valley school district. He reached out to the leadership at the Father’s Club with the idea of his employer partnering in funding and participating in a series of “Fist Bump for Food” (FB4F) events at Blue Valley High School during the ’24-’25 school year.

It did not take long for Chris and the leaders of Fidelity Bank and Father’s Club to finalize plans – together with a substantial gift from the bank – to organize its first FB4F event, which occurred on November 8th at Blue Valley High School. After he conceived of the idea, Chris said, “I suggested to my colleagues at Fidelity Bank that partnering with the Father’s Club would be an excellent way to connect with students and staff to get their day off to a great start! They thought it was a great idea and jumped right in!”

Fidelity Bank is a fourth-generation family-owned bank which has its core operation in Wichita, KS, and has a large branch located in Overland Park, KS. The bank has a long history of giving back to the communities in which it serves and partnering with organizations with like missions and values.

“The Fidelity Bank legacy is one of generous community investment, charitable support and volunteerism. Through our actions, we serve as a catalyst for building community spirit and celebrating our cities because our success is unconditionally linked.”

Several of Chris’s colleagues in their Fidelity Bank red shirts participated along with many dads in distributing smiles, high fives, hugs, and hundreds of chicken biscuit sandwiches. “It was great to see so many kids, teachers, and administrators thanking us and expressing their gratitude for a great start to their day,” Chris remarked as the kids moved to their classrooms in advance of bell announcing the start of the school day.

The Fidelity Bank partnership and FB4F Event – both HUGE Successes!

The Blue Valley High School event was a first of its kind – where the Father’s Club partnered with a corporate sponsor to host an event at the school. Mike Davisson, the Father’s Club Executive Director, commented that, “we have many generous corporate sponsors and supporters that have come alongside us, but this marks the first time we have had a corporate partner join us in financially supporting one of our signature FB4F events. It was a win-win-win for Fidelity Bank, Father’s Club, and of course students and staff, and we’d love to see more of these occur. The kids loved it!”

A highlight of the day for the dads and Fidelity Bank partners was a warm greeting and expression of thanks from Dr. Charles Golden, Blue Valley High School’s Principal for hosting the event. Not only did he offer his sincere thanks to the group of hosts, but he made sure he left with his own breakfast biscuit to start his day!

December 12, 2024/by Father's Club

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Ray-Pec Chapters Launch in Just 40 Minutes!

By Joshua McDonald, Ray-Pec Schools Regional Chair for Father’s Club

It was time for Fist Bump Friday! DADS were able to come face-to-face with almost 3,500 students at four Ray-Pec schools in a 40-minute timeframe! DADS were present at two middle schools, the ninth-grade center, and the high school. As I leaned into a mom’s car window in the morning drop-off line at one of the middle schools, I was reminded why we are doing this. I was encouraged that the effort and work to develop and build something new was worth it. I was reminded that our kids NEED this. Our families need this. Our community needs this.

Launching a new region of Father’s Club is not an easy task.

This is especially true when operated exclusively by volunteer DADS. We are pulled in many directions and can, at times, seem to have an overwhelming number of commitments and responsibilities. It can also be difficult to gauge the impact. However, experiences like this are a great reminder of the impact a small act can have on others.

Our mission that morning was simple. Be present. Pass out dum-dum’s, fist bumps, smiles, and encouraging words as students piled into the schools. During drop-off, a mom pulls up and calls me over to the car. As most parents know, the drop-off line needs to be fast and efficient… Keep It MOVING! (This was NOT one of those times. Sorry parents.) As I lean in, I notice “Mom” is in tears simply due to fathers’ proactive choice to engage and be present. We had a short conversation and explained the mission of Father’s Club quickly before saying our goodbyes and attempting to get the drop-off line back in rhythm.

I had felt a bit defeated over that week regarding dad engagement. How do we engage and recruit DADS without a presence? But, how do we create a presence without DADS?! Fortunately, the inaugural chapter chairs at each of the schools have been steady and consistent and surrounding regions of Father’s Club sent DADS over to partner with Ray-Pec DADS at two of the schools.

A simple forty minutes of presence produced multiple stories of impact on students, administration, and parents. Hopefully ”Mom” left that day encouraged knowing that there are fathers being proactive and present. Students who did not wish to be at school had changed their tune. Administrators and staff were immediately requesting more Fist Bump Fridays. Though the number of DADS at the official launch may have been lower than I had previously anticipated, the impact was not.

40 Ounces of Coffee and 500 Fist Bumps

Hopped up on 40 ounces of coffee and 500 fist bumps, I headed to work more excited than I had ever anticipated. The tough times in the trenches is where the foundation is built that supports the impactful times. Even if it is “just one,” it was worth it. As Father’s Club continues to grow in the Ray-Pec region, we are looking forward to adding co-chairs to assist in carrying the load as well as DADS who can simply be present.

Ray-Pec Father’s Club has begun to schedule additional events and even had the opportunity to run the chains at the South Middle v. East Middle football game. Fist Bump Friday will also take place at each school monthly.

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December 5, 2024/by Father's Club

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A Community Comes Together: How Father’s Club and Realtor Amy Sack Transformed a Teacher’s Home and Her Life.

By David Strickland, Board Member for Father’s Club

There’s a lot going on in people’s lives these days, it’s easy to feel isolated or overwhelmed when faced with a challenge too large to handle alone. But every now and then, a story emerges that reminds us of the power of community, compassion, and selflessness. This is one of those stories, and it centers around a beloved teacher, Father’s Club, and a dedicated Realtor^® named Amy Sack. Together, we helped a teacher regain control of her life by transforming her aging home, allowing her to sell it and begin a fresh, new chapter.

The story begins with a teacher who, like so many educators, has spent her life dedicated to her students.

Though she had worked hard to make improvements to her home, as a busy teacher, she was unsure how to tackle the daunting list of remaining projects needed to bring it back to life.

“As a single mom, I take pride in what I am capable of all on my own,” the teacher explained. “Everyone has a breaking point though. I was at mine and almost didn’t even realize it.”

The house had fallen into disrepair, and the teacher was unsure of how to tackle the daunting list of projects needed to bring it back to life. That’s when fate and Father’s Club stepped in. Through an unsolicited conversation, we learned of the teacher’s struggles. Without hesitation, we sprang into action, turning a casual exchange into a full-scale community effort.

“When I was asked about the possibility of them helping out with my house, I didn’t know what to think,” the teacher recalled. “I don’t like to ask for help and have a hard time receiving this kind of attention. I was afraid of being or feeling like a charity case. It was quite the opposite.”

Stepping Up

Once I heard about the teacher’s situation from a mutual friend, I immediately began rallying the troops! Many of our members had never met the teacher, but that didn’t matter. They trusted in the worthiness of the cause, knowing that our help could make a difference in someone’s life.

“When I let David Strickland know that the property was in need of some repairs that would really impact the price we could list the home for, he immediately said, ‘Hold on, let me see what I can do,’” recalled Amy Sack. “I have never seen a community outpouring such as this to assist a teacher in need get her home sold.”

Within hours, Father’s Club had secured financial contributions, materials, and volunteers. Soon, they were at the teacher’s home, ready to roll up their sleeves and get to work.

The outpouring of the support was a beautiful sight to see.

Front Line Real Estate Services stepped up big time and donated supplies and labor to be sure the job was done correctly. Tyler Lopez said, “This project was such a gift to be a part of! This story reminds me of my mom when I was young and my mom was starting new. God brought our story full circle!”

“Volunteers and members showed up at my house on a Saturday morning,” the teacher said. “Through prayer, hugs, hard work, a wide variety of skill sets, and a whole lot of smiles, the extra projects that I didn’t have the time or resources to tackle on my own disappeared.”

Amy Sack put in tireless hours on all the smaller improvement tasks many times until the early morning hours. She also acted as the General Contractor for the overall project. I’ve never seen a Realtor put in this type of selfless work. Amy transformed the Master bath and made it look brand new! She acted as the designer, the painter, the plumber and the installer.

The transformations were remarkable.

Over the next few weeks, Amy, Father’s Club and other community members donated materials and labor to complete the large interior projects that had been looming over the teacher for so long. The end result was a home that was not only ready for sale but one that shined like a jewel in the market.

“Thanks to the generous help of the Father’s Club, her home sold for significantly more money than it otherwise would have and helped her to begin a wonderful new chapter in her life,” Amy said. “It was a true joy to see the transformation happen and watch what a positive impact that can be made in the life of one person when the community comes together.”

For the teacher, the experience was life-changing.

“This is one of those gifts that you hear or read about but never happens to you,” she reflected. “Well, it happened to me, and my life is forever changed. Father’s Club provided the clean slate to start a new chapter for me and my son. We will be forever grateful for this group of men and their faithful generosity.”

What made this story so powerful wasn’t just the physical transformation of the home. It was the emotional impact on everyone involved. The teacher had been struggling under the weight of maintaining her home, but she was also struggling with the vulnerability of asking for help. Father’s Club didn’t make her feel like a charity case. Instead, they made her feel supported, seen, and loved by her community.

The project left a lasting impact on all those who helped. As Amy put it, “I loved being a part of it and will never forget such a heartwarming experience.”

Community Matters

Father’s Club is built on the principle that community matters, and that helping someone in need doesn’t just change their life—it strengthens the bonds of everyone involved. This teacher’s story is just one of many examples of the good that can come when people step up, offer their time, and give from the heart.

Looking back on the experience, the teacher remains in awe of the kindness she received. “My life is changed because of Amy and Father’s Club,” she said. “We are forever grateful for her and this group of men and their faithful generosity.”

We hope to inspire others with our commitment to making a difference, proving that when people come together, incredible things can happen. For one teacher and her son, it wasn’t just about selling a house. It was about rediscovering hope and starting anew, all thanks to the power of community.

November 26, 2024/by Father's Club