By Charles Dahm, Blue Valley Schools Regional Chair for Father’s Club

Blue Valley High School Father’s Club has a proud tradition of supporting the school, the students, and each other. That tradition continues this year and these dads are making things happen.

Blue Valley High (BVH) was the first of all the Father’s Clubs and it started with a simple conversation among two friends. Brad Holdhusen, when asked about those early days said, “I vividly remember those passionate conversations with my dear friend Vince Stephens. Vince and I had zero idea or thought that it would go beyond Blue Valley High.” Their conversations led to the infamous meetings on the deck where 7 guys met back in August of 2018 and Father’s Club began to take shape. Brad says, “We started with seven guys – pretty soon it was 20 guys. And it kept steamrolling.”

As the school year wrapped up in December the BVH dads got together for some pickleball and to strategize for a successful 2025.

Baseball is BACK and at BVH that means it’s time to tailgate! The dads turn out and fire up the grills to serve. “Blue Valley High has one of the most successful baseball programs in the state and we’re proud to be on hand to cheer on the team and provide a fun environment for the students and families,” says Shaun Reid, Chapter Co-Chair. The chapter donates the burgers, dogs, and sides and engages with the students, fans and players. Providing connections and support along with a friendly face.

“Dads are comfortable behind the grill – it’s a great fit and a lot of fun,” says Corey Reinert, Chapter Co-Chair.

The tailgate is an opportunity for the Fathers club to be present, provide consistent support, along with a representation and reminder of a Fatherly Figure. This is also an opportunity for other dads to connect and join our growing chapter.

The end of the school year is in sight, but these dads will be back next fall ready to chip in and support all BVH Tigers.

Shaun says, “The traditions established back in 2018 are alive and well today. With two BVH feeder schools in the early stages of chapter formation, we’ll be set long into the future.” Please contact us if you want to donate any of your time, at future events, we make a difference in the schools and community and it’s very rewarding!

By Mike Davisson, Executive Director/Olathe Regional Director for Father’s Club

I have had several conversations recently with DADS around how they can get their own Father’s Club apparel. Many of them had no idea that we have our own Online Merchandise Store. You can get to this easily from our website by clicking on Merch in the Main Menu.

We have a wide variety of Caps and Visors, Shirts and Polos, Long Sleeve and Short Sleeve and even ¼ Zip Polos. Additionally, you can find polos and hats with our Mission Cup Golf Tournament logo. We even have options for those that need Big & Tall options!

Visit the Father’s Club Merch Store

Represent Father’s Club!

I encourage you to update your wardrobe to include some of these items to wear at upcoming Father’s Club events and help us bring more exposure to Father’s Club in the community with our branded apparel.

Apparel Suggestions?

If there are items you would like to see us include on the site, please reach out to Executive Director, Mike Davisson, at mdavisson@fathersclub.org with your suggestions and requests.

Visit the Father’s Club Merch Store

By Steven Richmond, Chapter Co-Chair at California Trail Middle School for Father’s Club

It’s easy for dads to get caught up in the demands of work, family, and daily responsibilities. We often overlook the incredibly valuable practice of carving out small blocks of time to hit pause and meet with other dads living with the same demands to simply talk about life.

Meeting up at the local sports bar for an appetizer and a beverage is enjoyable, but the TVs and atmosphere can be distracting and take away from deeper, intentional conversation. Plus, between rushing home after work in time for dinner, kids’ sporting practices and events, nights can just be chaotic!

In January of this year, a group of six dads from California Trail Father’s Club began meeting every other week, in the morning at RevoCup Coffee, from 6:30 am to 8:30 am. Dads stop by before work or after dropping the kids off at school; and arrive and depart as their schedule permits. Since starting we have had more dads join us as we have learned the simple routine of grabbing a cup of coffee and spending time with other dads has helped enrich our mental wellbeing, personal growth, and family life.

Creating a Support Network

Fatherhood can feel isolated at times. Many dads find themselves navigating the challenges of parenting without a clear support system, especially when the demands of their career or personal life leave little room for connection. Meeting other dads regularly creates a powerful support network, where we can share experiences, frustrations, and triumphs. Just knowing other dads are walking a similar path and that we are not alone in the fatherhood journey is a huge boost.

Sure, we can talk about sports, but we have found most conversation in a more relaxed setting prompts dads to discuss common challenges like balancing work and home life, managing teenage independence, or simply trying to maintain a healthy relationship with our spouse. Having a group of dads who understand the nuances of fatherhood can make it easier to work through these hurdles.

Encouraging Mental and Emotional Well-Being

Society often places an emphasis on the idea that dads need to be stoic, strong, and unshakable. However, this can take a toll on mental wellbeing. Bottling up emotions or neglecting to talk about personal struggles can lead to stress, burnout, and even depression. When dads burn out, we risk becoming too passive or unengaged with our families. We must remember it’s OK to not be OK.

Coffee Talk provides an easy and welcoming space for dads to express their thoughts, process stress and frustrations, and feelings in a non-judgmental, open environment. Sharing the challenges we face in our day to day lives with a group of dads who “get it” help normalize discussions around mental and emotional well-being, something that is often neglected in conversations about fatherhood.

Learning from One Another

Each dad brings his own unique perspective and experiences to the table. Every dad has valuable lessons to share. These biweekly Coffee Talks provide an opportunity for dads to exchange parenting tips, life hacks, and advice based on their own trials and successes.

Perhaps one dad has found a creative way to manage time more effectively, while another has discovered strategies to communicate better with their kids. Learning from one another can help us dads feel more confident in our parenting abilities and provide fresh ideas for tackling life’s challenges.

Modeling Healthy Social Habits for Our Children

Our children are always watching us, and they learn by example. When they see us dads actively participating in healthy social practices—such as nurturing friendships, being open about feelings, and supporting one another—they absorb these behaviors. These Coffee Talks may help teach our children that it’s okay to lean on others for support and to engage in meaningful conversations about life.

Moreover, these social gatherings can help break the stereotype that men are solitary figures who don’t need to connect with others. By modeling positive social behaviors, dads can help pave the way for our children to prioritize relationships and communication throughout their lives.

Building Stronger Marriages and Family Lives

While the focus of these Coffee Talks is primarily on the dads themselves, the benefits extend to our marriages and family dynamics. Having a space to talk openly can help dads be more present and engaged at home. Sharing parenting tips and discussing relationship issues allows fathers to return to their families with a clearer sense of purpose, renewed energy, and fresh insights.

Additionally, when dads feel supported and understood in their personal lives, they are more likely to be emotionally available and present for their spouses and families. A happier, well-balanced father is better equipped to be an involved and loving husband and dad.

Time for Reflection and Personal Growth

The act of regularly stepping away from everyday responsibilities to reflect on one’s life is essential for personal growth. These biweekly Coffee Talks offer us dads the space to pause, reflect, and reassess our goals and priorities. Whether discussing career shifts, personal ambitions, or our evolving role as fathers, these conversations often help provide clarity and insight. Whether we are working on patience, self-care, or improving our relationships. These regular meetings allow us to track progress and hold ourselves accountable.

It’s Fun!

Let’s not forget the sheer joy of spending time with others who share similar interests and experiences. Coffee shop meetings offer a laid-back atmosphere, where dads can relax, enjoy a good cup of coffee, and talk about everything from the latest sports games to funny family anecdotes. These meetings don’t have to be all serious; they can also be a much-needed break from the hustle and bustle of life.

It’s More Than Just Coffee

Meeting every other week at a coffee shop is more than just a casual hangout—it’s an opportunity to build lasting friendships, grow personally, and enrich family life. Dads often feel pressure to juggle many roles. Consistent, routine meetups offer much-needed support and camaraderie. Whether it’s sharing parenting advice, talking about day-to-day stresses, or simply enjoying a cup of coffee, these gatherings serve as a powerful reminder that fatherhood, just like life itself, is better when shared.

Be intentional, reach out to other dads, invite them to meet individually or as a group for coffee. You might just find that a little time spent chatting over coffee can lead to lasting friendships and benefits for others, you, and your family.

• To get involved with a Father’s Club chapter at your school, visit the Chapters page on our website.
• If there isn’t a chapter currently at your school and you would like to know more about starting a Father’s Club chapter, visit the Contact page and fill out the form with your details and we will be in touch!

By Randy Bratton, Mission Cup Golf Committee Lead / Board Vice President for Father’s Club

Father’s Club is proud to announce the details for the 16^th annual Mission Cup Golf Tournament. This is our biggest fundraiser of the year, and once again we will be playing on two golf courses on two different days, making it one of the most unique events each year in Kansas City!

Monday, September 22nd, 2025 – Prairie Highlands
Friday, October 17th, 2025 – Sycamore Ridge

We have scheduled rounds on a Monday and a Friday, and about one month apart, so that our players and sponsors will have an opportunity to participate at one or both courses.

On Monday, September 22 we will play for the first time at beautiful Prairie Highlands Golf Club in Olathe. Shotgun start will be at 10 am.

Then on Friday October 17, we will return for the third time to Sycamore Ridge Golf Club in Spring Hill, KS with a shotgun start at 8 am.

So why do we present this tournament every year?

Our mission is simple. Father’s Club is a dad-led, grassroots effort creating simple ways for dads to be intentional with their KIDS, with other DADS and within their COMMUNITY. With resolve, humility, and love, our mission is to be a catalyst for positive influence around the world.

Since 2018, Father’s Club has seen tremendous growth in metro Kansas City, with dozens of chapters in middle schools and high schools. Despite their busy schedules, these chapters are led by every-day-dads, who generously give of their time in the interest of building a stronger community, and being intentional about spending time with their kids.

Our kids are facing huge challenges these days. As Dads, they need us to step in the gap and lead. Easier said than done, but we have seen the difference Father’s Club has made in rallying Dads to the cause. Our impact is visible, the stories are emotional, and the needs are very real.

• If you have an interest in being a corporate sponsor, or putting together a team for one or both rounds, reach out to Randy Bratton at randy.bratton@fathersclub.org.
• You can learn more about Father’s Club by visiting fathersclub.org.
• Up to date information about the Mission Cup can always be found at fathersclub.org/golf.

By Mike Davisson, Executive Director/Olathe Regional Director for Father’s Club

Valentine’s Day is more than just a celebration of romantic love; it’s an opportunity for a husband to show his wife how much she means to him and to set an example for his children about how a man should treat a woman in a marriage. The way a man chooses to honor his wife on this special day not only strengthens his relationship with her but also lays the groundwork for teaching his children about love, respect, and partnership.

Here’s how a husband can show up for his wife and why this is such a critical teaching moment.

1. Plan Thoughtfully

The first step in creating a meaningful Valentine’s Day experience is thoughtful planning.

The effort a man puts into planning shows his wife that he values her and their relationship. This doesn’t necessarily mean an extravagant gesture—even simple plans can have a profound impact if they are made with intention.

For example, a husband might:

• Arrange for a babysitter so the two can enjoy a quiet dinner together.
• Prepare a home-cooked meal with her favorite dishes.
• Write her a heartfelt letter or card expressing gratitude and love.

When children observe this level of intentionality, they learn that thoughtfulness and effort are key elements of a loving relationship. They see that love isn’t just about words but about actions that reflect care and consideration.

2. Express Genuine Appreciation

Valentine’s Day is an excellent opportunity to express gratitude.

A husband should take the time to tell his wife how much he appreciates her—not just for what she does but for who she is. Whether through words, gifts, or acts of service, showing appreciation reinforces the bond between partners.

Imagine a father sitting his children down and saying, “I’m taking your mom out tonight because she’s so special to me. She works hard for our family, and I want to show her how much she means to us.” This kind of modeling teaches a daughter that she should expect appreciation and respect in her future relationships and models to a son how he should treat his future wife.

3. Prioritize Her Needs and Preferences

A husband should make the day about his wife’s preferences and desires.

What would make her feel loved and cherished? Maybe she loves flowers and chocolates, or perhaps she prefers experiences over material gifts. Listening to her needs and prioritizing her happiness shows selflessness and respect.

When children see their father going out of his way to prioritize their mother’s happiness, they learn the importance of empathy and attentiveness in a relationship. They grow up understanding that a good partner takes the time to understand and honor the needs of the other person.

4. Celebrate the Everyday Moments

Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be the only day a husband shows love and appreciation, but it can be a day to celebrate the small, everyday moments that make their relationship special. A man can reflect on and highlight these moments, reminding his wife of the joy and connection they share.

For instance, he could create a photo album of their favorite memories or write a list of “10 Things I Love About You.” These gestures emphasize the importance of cherishing the mundane as much as the extraordinary.

By demonstrating this attitude, a father sets an example for his children to appreciate the little things in life and to seek a partner who does the same.

5. Model Healthy Communication

Valentine’s Day can also be an opportunity to model healthy communication.

A husband might use the occasion to have an open and loving conversation about their relationship, discussing hopes, dreams, and ways to continue growing together.

When children witness their parents communicating openly and lovingly, they learn how to express their feelings and resolve conflicts in their own relationships. This is a vital skill that will serve them well in her future.

6. Show Respect and Teamwork

One of the most profound ways a man can honor his wife is by treating her as an equal partner.

This might mean sharing responsibilities at home or consulting her about plans for the day. Acts of respect and teamwork are essential in any marriage and demonstrating them on Valentine’s Day reinforces their importance.

Kids who see their parents working together as a team will internalize the value of partnership. They’ll understand that a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and shared effort.

7. Demonstrate Affection

Affection—whether through words, physical touch, or small acts of kindness—is an important part of any marriage.

On Valentine’s Day, a husband can make an extra effort to be affectionate, whether it’s by holding his wife’s hand, giving her a hug, or simply telling her, “I love you.”

When children observe this loving behavior, they learn that affection is a natural and healthy part of a marriage. They will grow up expecting and valuing warmth and kindness from their future partner.

8. Involve the Family

While Valentine’s Day is traditionally about couples, involving the whole family can make it even more special.

A husband could:

• Have his children help prepare a surprise for their mom.
• Share stories about how he and his wife met and fell in love.
• Include a family activity, like making Valentine’s crafts together.

By including the family, a man not only makes his wife feel loved but also teaches his children—especially his daughter—about the importance of celebrating love and togetherness.

9. Be Consistent Year-Round

While Valentine’s Day is a wonderful occasion to make grand gestures, the most impactful way to show up for a wife is through consistent love and respect all year. A single day of attention won’t mean much if it isn’t backed by daily acts of kindness and support.

Consistency teaches a daughter that love is not just about fleeting moments but about a steady, unwavering commitment. She’ll see that a healthy marriage is built on a foundation of reliability and trust.

The Long-Term Impact on a Daughter

When a man treats his wife with love and respect, especially on days like Valentine’s Day, he’s not just strengthening his marriage—he’s also shaping his children’s understanding of relationships. They learn to recognize the qualities of a good partner: kindness, thoughtfulness, respect, and empathy. They grow up with a clear picture of how partners deserve to be treated and what a healthy, loving relationship looks like.

Young women are often exposed to unhealthy relationship dynamics in media and society. A father’s example is a powerful counterbalance. By showing up for his wife, a man helps his daughter set high standards for her own relationships, ensuring she seeks out a partner who will treat her with the same love and respect.

Again, Valentine’s Day is more than just a celebration of romantic love; it’s an opportunity to model what a healthy, loving relationship looks like. When a husband shows up for his wife with thoughtfulness, appreciation, and respect, he strengthens their bond and sets a powerful example for his children.

Father’s Club is not about being perfect but about showing up with intentionality.  So be sure to show up for your wife for Valentine’s Day and model a loving relationship for your children!